As a parent, we all go through moments when we have that fleeting thought on ‘What was I thinking when I said I wanted to be a parent?’
Being a Parent is one of the most Difficult, Stressful, Scary and Emotional journeys that you will ever be on. Trying to make heads or tails of that journey can at times drive you to the cliff edge and the ‘want’ to run away becomes very real. For you and your Children.
Take a moment to think about this. Your DNA pattering has a lot to do with your ‘REACTIONS’ around your children and how you interact with them as they grow…
Have a think about all the things you do when confronted by Sadness, Anger, Resentment and Anxiety from your Children.
Do you see a pattern?
What did you do as a child?
What did your partner do as a child?
You were both children once before, REMEMBER.
When you allow yourself to go into a REACTIVE space with your children, you are only merely inflaming the issue… Building on those flames already there, it then escalates into something that did not need to be there in the first place.
Your children need to be heard, not controlled. Loved not converted, Embraced for their uniqueness not pushed or pressured to learn how you learnt. They are very different to you and your partner, although they share your DNA, they are also very different and hold their own unique key to their locker in the universe.
You are their teachers not their controllers, help them discover the lessons learnt from EXPERIENCE. Show them Respect and they will send Respect, Teach them Reason and they will work with Reason, Show them Responsibility and they will be Responsible.
Be the leader with your Children, and they will follow, and then they will lead themselves to a brighter full of Love Future.